Wow, December Already … Now What?

If I were to knock on your office door tomorrow and say this:  ’Knowing that you’re guaranteed to succeed, what is your plan – personal & professional – for 2012?

  • Would you know your answer?
  • Would you smile with excitement and be able to rattle off the details?
  • And are the people who’re going to support you in those changes already briefed and onside?

If the answer to those 3 points is ‘yes’, then congratulations, you can save yourself 2 minutes by skipping the rest of this blog and going back to your joyous state of clarity & attracting the dream!

For those who aren’t clear about what you’d like to see manifest before December 2012, that’s ok, welcome to the tribe!

Forward planning doesn’t have to be a laborious, drawn out kind of process, however, if you want a significantly improved version of this year though, trust me the 30 minutes you invest in this little exercise will be the most precious time you’ve spent … ever. Here’s the strategy:

  • Book a 30 minute meeting with yourself within the next 7 days and write it into your diary (because if it’s in there and you treat yourself with the respect you treat other people, you’ll stick to it!)
  • Go somewhere quiet whether it’s in the office or in the house, or out to a favorite hide away in a library or a coffee shop (and put your I’m-serious-don’t-bother-me face on so that people know to keep their distance)
  • Ask What Do I Want? …. and with your blank paper and pen at the ready, let this simplest and most powerful question in the world sink beyond your intellect and into your heart & soul … just wait … then
  • Write your thoughts down, and if it helps use these 8 headings: Career; Finances; Relationship; Friends & Family; Health; Recreation; Personal Growth; Service to Others (if you’re not that structured, just let all the ideas in your mind find their own words and form on the page)
  • Hold the mindset of ‘I’m guaranteed to succeed’ – and write from that place of trusting (because for sure your sub-conscious has a field day during these tasks with ‘but … well you can’t because … what will people say … how are you qualified … who’s going to listen … it’s never been done’). Be courageous with the intentions of your future.

When you’re finished the excercise – that’s round 1 done. Congratulations!

Round 2 happens over the next 5 days, when once a day for 10 minutes you re-read your vision and check in with yourself how that feels. Picture yourself living the reality that you’ve created for yourself and remind yourself ‘I’m guaranteed to succeed!’.

The trick with all of this mindset mastery is to keep away from the ‘how’. It’s counter-intuitive I know, but when we learn the skill of holding intentions without limiting the outcomes by leading with our intellect, that’s when we tap into ‘success with soul’, infinite possibility and extraordinary & speedy results.

Round 3 happens by paying attention to how the thoughts you think and the actions you take over the rest of this month are subtly reframed and purposeful. Regularly read and meditate on your 2012 plan throughout December and on through the beginning of the new year. Relax about how it’s going to play out.

It IS going to play out.

The Best Success Coach – You!

What does it take for anyone to be the best at anything? And does being labelled the best success coach in the UK take different traits to being the best runner in the Olympics, the best artist of the Turner Prize, the best actress at the Oscars or the best leader in your organisation?

The word ‘best’ is often used to compare one person, talent or event to another. In this sense, I would steer clear of using it unless it’s in a context of comparing me with myself. Wayne Dyer once said that ‘true nobility is not about being better than anyone else, it’s about being better than I used to be’. With that in mind, here’s some of what I think it takes to bring out the best in who you’re striving to become:

  • A Compelling Vision: when it’s cold and wet and you have to get up for training, when you fingers are blistered from strumming those guitar chords a thousand times over, when you’ve got to dig deep  to spend another day of business waiting for the breakthrough, a compelling vision will re-ignite passion and motivation to underpin the drive to keep going.

My vision is defined in writing, on a vision board and in a series of mind movies – so that however I’m reminded, it’s inspiring.

  • Personal Responsibility: no one became the best in their field by looking outside of themselves for the answers, by comparing themselves to another or for finding someone to blame. Each person has a definition of success that’s as unique to them as is their fingerprint and a route to achieving that success that navigates through unchartered territory.

I regularly shake off the echos of ‘if you could write like her …’; ‘if you had money like him …’; ‘if you were as smart as …’. I’m 100% responsible for the thoughts I think, the choices i make and for how big I choose to show up in the world.

  • Increasing Self Awareness: What other’s can observe about you will only ever be a tiny piece of the jigsaw. When you develop the skill of tuning in to the physical signs, the intellectual promptings, the emotional resonances, and the spiritual meaning of the vision you’re choosing, then you can fully expand into the truth about your purpose. Only then can you stretch for the heights you secretly dream about. No limits remember?

For me, self awareness and self development are two circles with a venn-diagram-like cross over point. My personal aim is to expand that central part to a point where awareness and development are entirly overlapping and function with syncronicity at all times … a work in progress.

I’ve worked with clients whose compelling vision, once defined clearly and courageously, has been enough to change their thoughts, their feelings, and their ability to take inspired action. Subsequently results begin to appear, sometimes so significantly and speedily that you wonder where they could have been hiding for all this time.

So, is it possible for you to be the best at whatever it is you expect for yourself? With vision, responsibility and awareness I say ‘yes’. The most important thing as I always say, is to go inside for your answers – to take some quiet time, shut your eyes, focus your mind towards your heart and let the best you step forward!

Sporting links to Business Success

Since the beginning of 2011 I’ve been upping the stakes on the fitness front – more swimming, more tennis, more detoxing. And it’s great. I feel energised, positive and focussed to a much higher level than when I’m desk-bound all day.

Last week my swim partner and I changed the timing of our training session. We went from 6.30am (a proper discipline for me – especially when it’s still dark outside) to 12.15am. I had thought we would meet, as usual in the foyer of the swimming pool, however, I quickly realised that he’d arrived early and had just got started. By the time I joined him in the pool he was 16 lengths ahead! A significant lead when we were only doing 50 lengths total that day.

So, no time to delay, I jumped in and got started. My first 5 lengths were filled with thoughts of ‘got to swim faster, got to catch up’. And so I pushed myself and really felt the burn as I focussed on lapping him every 10 lengths instead of my usual every 14.

After about 10 minutes I began to think, ‘you know, I’m focussing on the wrong goal. It’s unreasonable to be referencing myself against a person who started 16 lengths ahead of me. I should be concentrating on my style, my breathing, completing my goal and achieving a personal best.’

And this got me thinking about business success. Sometimes the people whose businesses have been established longer and appear to run so effectively inspire me to move forward faster and to innovate. And sometimes, their persistent emails promoting their next teleclass, next program and next fool-proof system drive me to lose my sense of pride in my own achievements and my own game.

Experience is good, and knowledge is valuable, but it’s a positive and persistent attitude that will keep us driving our business success forward. It’s your journey, your vision and your race with your own expectations.

Me, I’ve resolved to remind myself often that my vision is unique to me and that a daily personal best is a pretty big victory.

12 Principles for Using the Law of Attraction: Part 2

… continued …

6. Law of Connection: nothing happens by chance. Every action has a consequence or a reaction. Everything is energy – light, sound, heat, emotions, thought, even those things that appear static or solid, like rocks, sea, cars, jewels and planets. We are connected through this field of energy to all other beings, to the things we desire and to Source itself. All that we do has a greater consequence in contributing to the ‘everythingness’ of the universe. Like a pebble thrown into a pond, the ripples are ever expansive. We reap what we sow.

“Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul” Dr Wayne Dyer

7. Law of Rhythm: everything has a flow. Seasons, cycles, stages of development, patterns. Night follows day, tides rise and fall, wake follows sleep, peace follows conflict and wisdom follows challenge. When we begin to live conscious lives the cycles become clearer and it allow us to step back from challenges, pain or learning curves and say ‘it’s part of life in same way as happiness, victories and progress’ – we live trusting that this too will pass.

“Live each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each” Henry David Thoreau

8. Law of Allowing: all things manifest from thought to form in their right time. Our holding to these laws, practicing, refining ourselves and committing to lifelong learning is what’s called for here. If we’re thinking the thoughts and taking the action, the rest is about trusting the process. The more we can let go of our limited agenda and allow the universe to do it’s stuff (and allow other people to do theirs too!), the more room it has to maneuver a stunning result.

“Once we plant the seed of intention in the ground of pure potentiality, our soul’s journey unfolds automatically, as naturally as a bulb becomes a tulip or an embryo becomes a child” Deepak Chopra

9. Law of Patience and Reward: true mastery requires patient persistence, expectancy and joy as we focus on the goal. Know that success doesn’t lie at the destination, it exists in every moment of HOW we journey. Developing that mindset includes the art of allowing and that combination is powerful in manifesting the dream you’re heading for.

“He that can have patience, can have what he will” Benjamin Franklin

11. Law of Humility: the purpose of an individual is unique. Whilst there may be similarities to what other people are creating in their time here on earth, your life is not theirs and theirs not yours. Each life mix is as individual as a fingerprint – history, expectations, family, fitness, intellect and spiritual journey. Allow difference. Respect it. Celebrate it. There are many right ways. Be constantly aware to acknowledge and encourage others’ chosen path and keep well away from comparison unless it serves to inspire you.

“It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is” Hermann Hesse

12. Law of Gratitude: an attitude of gratitude aligns purpose, soul and Source in one straight line. Developing gratitude and feeling it deeply on a moment-to-moment basis (which takes practice!!) is like laying a flawless road for a performance car; the potential for speed is immense. Being grateful when living with challenges is when the skill of ‘reframing’ comes into its own. I want to be thinner – ‘I’m grateful that today I lost a pound’; I want to earn more – ‘I’m grateful for my contacts at director level’; I want to find my soul-mate – ‘I’m grateful for my social life and friends’.

“When you are grateful, fear dissolves and abundance appears” Anthony Robbins

Remember … Everything is energy. And thoughts become things.

This is the briefest outline of the Universal Laws of Success. Knowing them and adjusting your life to fully benefit from them aren’t so far apart, however it requires intimate understanding of the principles and disciplined habit changing. Simple … but not easy. You’ve got to want the results and be willing to do the learning and make the adjustments!

What I can tell you is this though. As a Success with Soul Coach, I’ve seen clients embrace these secrets with dramatic effect– not even all of them, just one or two pertinent to their particular circumstance. I’ve had clients double their salary while reducing the number of days at work; shift to a new career & country; get pregnant after years of trying; get fitness goals on track within weeks; renew on-the-edge professional relationships to a place of respect ; and receive unexpected money in the mail. These are exceptional examples in a short time frame, however they demonstrate that the laws do work. In other cases, clients have reported increased happiness and meaning; a greater sense of connection and purpose; more inspiration and motivation; and an overwhelming sense of peace.

Personally, you can’t put a price on that stuff – it’s where miracles begin.

12 Principles for Using the Law of Attraction: Part 1

Here are the first 6 of the 12 universal principles which form the basis of all success generated on the planet.

Being ‘universal’ means that they apply to you whether or not you’re aware of them, much like gravity. However, knowing the principles is the first step to increasing your choices and raising your game in health, wealth, love and happiness, so … read on, you’re in the right place.

1. Law of Thinking: thoughts are catalysts, shifting dreams into form. Using thought every second of every day, each of us is the creator of our own life experiences, our own reality. So if we change our thoughts, we change our world.

“What we think, we become” Buddha

2. Law of Abundance: There is infinite supply for each of us to create our dreams – materials, people, resources, power, energy, knowledge, passion and wealth. More for someone else doesn’t mean less for you. Body, mind, heart and soul will thrive in this life when we embrace the true meaning of abundance. If you can think it, you can create it.

“When you realise there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you” Lao Tzu

3. Law of Expansion: Change is a constant and through it the universe intends for growth. Each of us has a unique purpose in the short time we exist in this physical form. You can choose to engage with personal progress or at any time to sit it out – neither is better than the other. Expansion happens you in an infinite number of ways; deep thinking, experiencing, mediating, praising, sharing, collaborating, acknowledging, intending, reading, writing, coaching, mentoring … forever.

“All change is not growth; as all movement is not forward” Ellen Glasgow

4. Law of Attraction: thoughts, feelings, words and actions produce energies which vibrate out from us, then in turn, attract like energies towards us. What we focus on we attract. By paying attention to what is inspiring, positive and affirming, we attract back those same energies in various forms.

“ … Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if something is excellent or praiseworthy – think on these things” Philippians 4:8

5. Law of Responsibility: to experience success, take 100% responsibility for everything in your life, positive or challenging. Give up blaming and complaining. Think. Work out what has to change, then change it. Only when you make decisions from a place of 100% responsibility can you take charge of the future you’re designing for yourself.

“I am the master of my soul: I am the captain of my ship” William Ernest Henley

6. Law of Action: life requires our participation. To manifest on earth we must translate our thoughts into action. Even the smallest action towards our goal counts – a conversation had, a compliment given, a form completed, a piece of research filed, a cup of coffee well made, a gathering of like minds, a ticket booked, an article written, and email sent – all inspired action whether to further our career, health, relationships or knowledge is increased by the universe under the law of expansion.

“The journey of a thousand miles starts with one step” Confusious

… Laws 7-12 will follow shortly on my next blog …

The ‘Way-Showers’ to Attract Abundance

How often have to heard successful business leaders say that their prosperity was attracted to them as opposed to having to work hard for it? Hardly ever right?

Whilst space along the extra mile is still pretty plentiful, things are changing and business leaders are becoming more conscious in developing themselves to the full. Shared wisdom is valuable when it comes from leaders who have put their theories to the test and prospered. Let’s look at some:

  • “I try to learn from the past, and I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That’s were the fun is.” Donald Trump: multi-billionaire property tycoon
  • “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” Mark Victor Hansen: millionaire author, speaker, coach
  • “I believe in myself. I believe in the hands that work, in the brains that think, and in the hearts that love.” Richard Branson: world-renowned entrepreneur & visionary
  • “Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.” Oprah Winfrey: media-mogul, presenter, author, entrepreneur

So fun, action taking, self belief, successful thinking, personal responsibility and persistence. These are all brilliant abundance attracting tools. PLUS one essential extra ingredient … clarity!!! To begin to develop our full potential, you’ve got to be clear what you’re trying to move towards and why.

“You have sole ownership of your vision. And the Universe will give you what you want within your vision. What happens with most people is that they muddy their vision with ‘reality’. Their vision becomes full of not only what they want but what everybody else thinks about what they want, too. Your work is to clarify and purify your vision so that the vibration that you are offering can then be answered.” Abraham Hicks

The difference between chasing abundance and attracting it is the difference between referencing the outside world and trusting your internal universe. Developing soul, meaning, fulfillment and awareness is the domain of our future leaders. They’re rising up already in business, music, sport, science, media and health.

Let’s give an expert the final word on this topic:

“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” Dr Wayne Dyer: philosopher, author, speaker, businessman

Attracting abundance – the power lies in simplicity.

Prosperity – what some?

From the moment we’re born we start to give meaning to what we see, hear, taste and feel. We learn the values of our family, the expectations of society, what’s going to make us happy and what to steer clear of. In those informative years, what did we learn about money, wealth, prosperity?

In some house holds conversations about prosperity, or financial success, are rare. Maybe you were taught some lessons about investment or perhaps you just had pocket money handed out once a week and you formed a spending habit unique to you. Maybe your experience was cautionary ‘money doesn’t grow on trees you know’, ‘you only get rich if you work hard’, ‘money is the root of all evil’; or your ‘facts’ were comparative, ‘people like us don’t earn money like that’, ‘you can’t be rich and spiritual’, ‘the rich get richer – the poor get poorer’.

Whatever your experience I’d like to offer you some new truths about prosperity:

  • Changing your beliefs is a pre-cursor to changing your income
  • If you want a different financial result you can choose to reinvent your relationship with money and make a spontaneous difference.
  • Money, like air, is around us all the time. It’s an expression of energy and attracting it is a skillset – you learn it, you got it.
  • Affirmations speed up the money manifesting process. Try these: ‘money flows to me in multiple sources on an ongoing basis’, ‘wealth is who I am’, ‘I attract money with ease and grace’, ‘prosperity is my norm’.
  • When you’re ready for increase, set your mind on a figure that your sub-conscious can realistically buy into. So if you’re top ever annual earnings were £50,000, don’t set your next one at £900,000 unless you’ve done the internal shift work to ensure your subconscious is convinced. Pick £100,000 and work at increasing it from there.

Taking financial leaps in the past I’ve rarely done on my own. It takes new knowledge and often new courage. I’ve experienced increase a number of ways – hiring a success coach, taken advice from experts via books, or spent more time around people with greater business success. One things for sure though – if you want greater prosperity that you’re experiencing at this moment – the power lies 100% in your hands.

Does Personal Investment Bring Business Success?

I’ve been in conflict this week. Big time. I’m hiring a new online marketing coach and because my previous multiple-experiences with online coaches have woefully under-delivered, I don’t want to let my past experiences taint the entire industry.

But there’s a further challenge … I’m out there in the online market place too. I’m offering products that I passionately believe will make a difference. And if others have had the same experience of feeling ‘duped’ as I have, how can they decide whether I’m a expert worth trusting?

HOW do we locate the sincerity amongst all the hot air? Here’s are my top 5 recommendations:

  • Do your research – don’t be afraid to get behind a long sales letter. They’re long because they have to deal with every objection the reader could possibly think of. But when you have a phone, skype or face-to-face dialogue with a seller, you get a sense of the source. Ask them for more examples of how an individual truly went through a process. Ask what percentage of their students get the results they’re highlighting. You wouldn’t buy an offline purchase – a car, some curtains, a new iPhone – without all the answers. And what might work for the masses may not be your thing … so ask until you feel clear and confident.
  • Expect accountability – if the new juicer you buy isn’t juicing like it claimed it would – you take it back. Often you don’t want your money back, you want the value of what the product said it would bring to your life. So you ask the supplier to be accountable for the product they’re selling and either show you how to use it more effectively or NOT sell the juicer with these unfulfillable promises. It’s the SAME principle when you’re buying knowledge. If it’s not producing for you as it was sold – it’s right to challenge that.
  • Listen to your intuition – take time to look around a person’s website and check out their social media presence. If you sense a sincerity and authenticity, check out their credentials (like if there are testimonials on their sales letters, find that person on facebook and ask them to share more detail). I’ve seen teeny glimpses of some online marketeers which have changed my instinct of them entirely – both ways.
  • Put your investment in context – ask yourself how the money you’ll spend will influence your business, career and life. Be aware of statements of worthiness, like ‘I do charge multiple 5 figures for my program- so it’s only for those who are serious about business, serious about stepping up, serious about huge results’. Whilst I do believe that our beliefs alter what we attract (I teach universal law after all), know that you are always worthy, always enough, always connected to your purpose through your soul. So, clear head, clear heart, clear decision making.
  • Learn from each experience – like I said, I’ve invested 10s of thousands of dollars in seminars, coaching and development programs with varying results: the best ones for me had personal coaching time built in (but not outsourced to a team of off-site coaches); the worst (and usually the most expensive) where seminars where there was a mass download of information and no follow up.

So, I hope some of this will help you with decisions of online knowledge purchasing. And when you find the stars, the way-showers that you really resonate with – stick with them!!

Everything is Energy

I’ve been reading this amazing book – The Wave, by Susan Casey. I’m gripped! It’s research into understanding ocean waves, from regular moon pulling currents, to random, ship-splitting, gargantuan rogue waves. And about how surfers use and interact with the ocean, especially now there’s a $500,000.00 price tag out there from Billabong (world’s no. 1 surf brand) for the first person (or nutter!) to surf a 100ft wave.

What’s really drawing me about the book is the detail of the culture of the world’s surfing elite. The passion involved, the commitment, the risks, the relationships, the trust and the victory when a new and mighty wave is conquered; and overriding all of this a soul-centred respect for a power greater than ourselves.

I see parallels of this tribe mirrored in all walks of life – business, sport, science, faith, family, nature. A confirmation that passion drives us, wipe-outs happen, persistence brings success, and connection to your purpose adds something ‘other-worldly’ to your journey of success.

Everything is energy!